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How do you know if you have found the "RIGHT
MATE"?
"My Heart was so peaceful, my spirit was free, I had no doubt!"
Do you feel peace in your heart!! None of those feelings in your gut that
you know something is not right! "But just maybe things will change". Are
you making excuses for someone, even when you don't agree, or it hits the
core of who you are? If you need to make even one excuse to yourself for
someone, you need to take a hard look at the direction your going. This is
the big one folks!
Are you fighting/making up...fighting/making up? This is not a sign that
the two of you are pairing up quite right. God did not intend for marriage
to be a battleground of wills. If this is happening while dating, you can
be sure it will continue when married. This goes against every marriage
principle we have ever known. This goes back to needs. Someone's needs are
being ignored, sometimes, these needs cannot be met. Its important to know
whether a potential mate can meet your needs and you to them. Knowing the
difference can save you a lot of potential heartache!
We assume that if you are reading this you are Christian or wanting to
become a Christian, therefore, sex should never be an issue in dating!!
Here's what we mean by that. If either partner is feeling pressured by
sex, this is not a Christian relationship/marriage in the making. You can
be sure that this relationship is not based on Godly principle. This goes
back to knowing what you need, once again. If you want and need a
Christian marriage, this will tell you which direction you are heading.
There are no excuses for this one! God intended for sexual relations
between husband and wife.
Remember this, it's easy to find the "wrong mate", it takes knowing
oneself, steadfast prayer and patience, to find the right one! Fill your
life with all the things you love, read your Bible and follow God's will
for your life. If you find the right one consider this, as we said all
along you should have been in prayer for this relationship.
So after prayer and spending time together and with others. You both see
you want to get married.
But before you make this decision think on this.
First:
Ladies are you willing to be under submission to this man? Will he be the
Godly head that God requires of him?
"Therefore as the church is subject unto
Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything" Ephesians
5:24
Second:
Men are you willing to love your wife as Christ loves the church? Are you
willing to be the head of the family?
Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ
also loved the church, and gave himself for it. Ephesians 5:25
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